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Sid
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Response Posted - 01/08/2004 :  12:49:07  Show Profile
Dave,
Our hearts and prayers go out to you and your children. God bless and keep you.
Sid
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Steve Milby
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Response Posted - 01/08/2004 :  14:45:54  Show Profile
Dave, please accept my deepest sympathy on the loss of your wife.
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Ellis Bloomfield
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Response Posted - 01/08/2004 :  14:47:00  Show Profile
Dave,
I'm so sorry about your loss. My sis died a couple of years ago at about the same age and had led a similar life of community and family involvement. What a dent it makes. Life is so fragile. Will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Ellis
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tmhansen
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Response Posted - 01/08/2004 :  15:42:35  Show Profile  Visit tmhansen's Homepage
Dave, here I sit at my desk at work. Hopefully no one will notice all the emotions I feel right now. I have never met you, never talked to you, yet you are no stanger. You are a part of this community that we enjoy together. Let me add my voice to the others here and say my heart goes out to you friend.
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OJ
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Response Posted - 01/08/2004 :  16:35:29  Show Profile
<blockquote id="quote"><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica" id="quote">quote:<hr height="1" noshade id="quote"><i>Originally posted by Dave Bristle</i>

BTW, Steve, what were you reading and where? There were some local notices, but I'm curious about what you found.

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Dave, here's the link:

http://www.legacy.com/LegacySubPage2.asp?Page=LifeStory&PersonID=1757087
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Champipple
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Response Posted - 01/08/2004 :  16:46:27  Show Profile  Visit Champipple's Homepage
Dave,

Our sincerest sympathies - you will be in our thoughts and prayers.

Duane
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sanibelle
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Response Posted - 01/08/2004 :  17:30:03  Show Profile
Dave,

I'm truly sorry for your loss.

I've always looked for your comments in forum topics that have interested me. I hope the comments and prayers from all of us will help in some small way to ease the pain of your loss.

Joe Russo
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John Mason
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Response Posted - 01/08/2004 :  18:30:35  Show Profile
Dave,
I'm sorry for your loss. My sympathy goes out to you. Just one of your many Catalina Forum friends.

May your sails be filled with a comforting wind.
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John V.
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Response Posted - 01/11/2004 :  18:08:58  Show Profile  Visit John V.'s Homepage
So sorry to hear of your loss Dave. I lost my mom this fall and know some of what you are going through. You and your family are in our prayers.
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Oscar
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Response Posted - 01/11/2004 :  23:24:26  Show Profile  Visit Oscar's Homepage
Dave, I'm sorry, and you're welcome. You sure you want to sell the boat? Maybe a nice way to look for a new shore is from the water....

Oscar

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Sunrise on the Neuse River...
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cvwall
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Response Posted - 01/12/2004 :  12:58:31  Show Profile
Dave, I was so sorry to hear of Barb's passing. May you find the inner strength you need to perservere; our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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glstout
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Response Posted - 01/12/2004 :  15:31:04  Show Profile
Dave

Death is part of life but it's very hard to accept, especially when it happens to one close to us. Certainly you have our sympathy and our prayers; on the bright side it certainly sounds like this caring lady has passed to a better place.
When it comes to selling your boat I'd think about that in depth before putting the "for sale" sign on her. There may be memories that cause pain but probably more that are cherished and ease the pain. I think most of us sail at least partially because we find more peace in that mode than anything else we do.
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cathluk
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Response Posted - 01/12/2004 :  19:27:52  Show Profile
I am so sorry, Dave. My prayers are with you.

Please don't hesitate to share your thoughts and recollections - you are among friends here.
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takokichi
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Response Posted - 01/12/2004 :  19:39:23  Show Profile
Dave -

To what has been said with such eloquence I can only add to the chorus. You and your family are in our thoughts here, too.

Justin
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Dave Bristle
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Response Posted - 01/12/2004 :  20:53:19  Show Profile
Thanks so much, everyone... We had a very nice memorial service Saturday afternoon, focusing on wonderful remembrances offered by a number of representatives of the varied circles of friends and family she had touched. I took a big risk and concluded the service to express my family's gratitude and my own memories, which of course include sailing with Barb. It was the most important "speech" of my life, and I actually got through it with only one "moment." I could feel her calm strength encouraging me to help everyone else deal with the loss. That experience really helped me toward closing the chapter, but there is still work to be done.

I won't be selling Passage right away, but when I do, it will be to move on to something more appropriate to my situation, whatever that turns out to be. I just learned of another significant expenditure I'm facing for her... With my family income reduced by about half, I must now consider these expenses more critically than before.

I have long felt a sense of community here, even if I've strained it now and then with some arguments and opinions. But now, I feel the true community that has been created by sailors--particularly sailors of modest, unpretentious boats like the C-25/250. This is a special group, as evidenced by the alumni who continue to participate here, even as they have moved on to grander vessels. Thank you all for your thoughtful responses.

Now, it's time to get back to sailing matters, including what I'm going to do about my genoa. That'll be a new thread...
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oldsalt
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Response Posted - 01/12/2004 :  21:45:49  Show Profile
Dave, I don't know exactly how to add to the thoughts already expressed by the others but I am so very sorry for your loss.

Mark
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triley
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Response Posted - 01/12/2004 :  23:24:32  Show Profile
Your family is in our prayers, too. If you get a chance, please read an old memoir. It is William Gibson's "A Mass for the Dead." I know it sounds wrong right now, but it is truly uplifting. It was published in 1968, and was reprinted in 1999. It is not religous, but it gives a sense of our importance-all of us- on this earth.
Gibson wrote "The Miracle Worker" and did the scrrenplay for "Golden Boy". I think you will enjoy it and feel well about your wife.

Tom
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deastburn
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Response Posted - 01/16/2004 :  16:57:38  Show Profile
I have been away from the Forum for a while and am just reading your courageous note about your loss. I have been through this recently with two friends, so I can imagine the pain that gnaws at you now. Two words of encouragement: time and tears will clear your mind of the loss and bring only a smile of joy to your face at having had so many years of joy with this remarkable woman; and when God closes a door on us, he always opens another, one that allows us to grow and experience even more deeply the profound joy of being alive. You will be more than welcome as a guest on "Wood Duck" next summer and at my house in the Vineyard. And a final word: wait until you work through the initial grief before you make life-changing decisions; hold onto what makes you the special, energetic and alive person that you are.
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Todd Frye
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Response Posted - 01/16/2004 :  19:03:55  Show Profile
Dave,
Please accept my heart felt sympathy for you and the many lives I'm sure both you and your wife have touched. And thank you for letting us share the burden you now carry. Best wishes. Todd Frye
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