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existentialsailor
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Initially Posted - 10/23/2006 : 14:56:03

Next weekend a friend is going with me to deliver my boat for haul out. It will be at least a 1 and 1/2 hour sail/ motor in showers, high 40, low 50 temps-obviuosly foulie weather. He will also be helping me take down my mast.
Besides taking his time, he will be driving the 125 miles in his own car (we need 2 vehicles, one where we start and one where we end up).

A simple thank you seems less than adequate. What would be a decent way to show my appreciation? Is there anything "customary" for such situations?

Thanks!

Rick

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Champipple
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Response Posted - 10/23/2006 : 15:25:22

Dinner and Drinks - separate from the event, plus a token gift.

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djn
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Response Posted - 10/23/2006 : 15:48:28

I agree with Duane. Cheers and have a great sail.

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dlucier
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Response Posted - 10/23/2006 : 15:49:16

shang-hai (shang-hahy, shang-hahy] –verb (used with object), -haied, -hai-ing. Nautical to enroll or obtain (a sailor) for the crew of a ship by unscrupulous means, as by force or the use of liquor or drugs.

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JimB517
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Response Posted - 10/23/2006 : 15:58:19

You know, I once did a ton of work helping a fellow saior remove his inboard diesel, I drove it to the shop, and helped him re-install when the rebuild was done. I asked for, nor expected anything in return. However, he gave me a $100 West Marine gift card. I appreciated it very much and used the card to buy nice foulies.

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Gloss
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Response Posted - 10/23/2006 : 16:27:58

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Dave Bristle
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Djibouti
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Response Posted - 10/23/2006 : 17:37:47

I'll vote for a nice dinner out... including spouse(s) if any. It's a nice personal touch. I've been the giver and the recipient of the same thing, for essentially the same reason.

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Frank Hopper
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Response Posted - 10/23/2006 : 19:31:40

As I sit here with a Victoria's Secret commercial on the TV next to my computer I some how think a stack of one dollar bills and some time at a special restaurant that does not serve food sounds good.

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Gloss
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Response Posted - 10/23/2006 : 20:30:45

Hey Frank
Your comment about the dollar bills reminds me of a fond memory of my Mom.
You see, my sister took my Mom to see the Chippendales show in Atlanta. The next day Mom asks me if I have a hardhat and tool belt. I said why yes, of course I do. Then she proceeds to tell me how I could make some extra bucks. Thanks Mom, but no thanks.

But getting back to showing appreciation for a friends help. Dinner is great, but what is always appreciated is to offer a day to help out your friend on one of his projects. That always works for me. But I'm sure that you already offered your help on a payback basis.

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Dave Bristle
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Response Posted - 10/23/2006 : 21:56:24

<blockquote id="quote">quote:<hr height="1" noshade id="quote">Originally posted by Gloss
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OK, nobody say a word... This is a G-rated forum!

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Carl B.
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Response Posted - 10/23/2006 : 22:17:47

Rick,
I think a gift card to support his favorite hobby would be nice.

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britinusa
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Response Posted - 10/24/2006 : 06:54:40

Oh how quickly the rot sets in! Always ready to look at the alternative view.
How about looking at it another way.
'Hey Buddy! Want to go sailing next weekend? If you meet me at (a) then we can sail over to (b) then drop the mast, haul out, drive back to (a). How does that sound?'

If I were the buddy and near by, I would sign up in a heartbeat.

The sail and experience would be the reward, and the only gift you could offer me that really fit the occasion would be the promise of a longer sail in better conditions. I would certainly offer to add a dinner break on the return journey.

What goes around comes around, I'm sure that he would need my asistance one day.

A friend in need is a friend indeed!

Paul.

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OLarryR
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Response Posted - 10/24/2006 : 07:14:52

Agree with Paul, there will be times to offer a freind the payback when he needs help with something...The sailing is the reward but I would offer dinner after the day's events. Also...how do you know it is going to rain this next weekend ? It may turn out to be a beautiful day.

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existentialsailor
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Response Posted - 10/24/2006 : 08:34:47

I don't know it's going to rain, the forecast is for rain or snow.
Sailing on my boat is not a treat for this guy, he owns two Calibers. He's taking pity on my newbieness, hence my desire to show my appreciation in some way.

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SailCO26
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Response Posted - 10/24/2006 : 08:56:39

"Sailing on my boat is not a treat for this guy, he owns two Calibers"

Then I suggest RUM! If he's a racer, then Mt.Gay RUM!

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jerlim
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Response Posted - 10/24/2006 : 14:13:06

I vote for the dinner - include his admiral as well, never hurts to build back home support :)
Jerry

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